Once the first flush of romance has passed it takes a little more effort to keep that sense of sparkle and passion alive. However, there are numerous ways to reconnect with each other and put some life back into your relationship.

Even if you have known that special someone for a long period of time, you should make the effort to go on a date together every once in a while. Arrange to meet somewhere, arrive separately and find out about each other all over again. Maintaining an element of surprise in your relationship keeps things alive and recreating your first date scenario reminds you of what attracted you to each other in the first place.

Simple communication is the basis of a successful relationship. Turn off the television, put down your book and just have a chat with your significant other. Talk about how your day was, exciting plans you have for the day or week ahead, and common interests. But, remember that you probably need to take time out to do this, as busy lifestyles often mean you miss out on time like this unless you consciously set some aside. Communication is one of the most important parts of a relationship, so include it in everyday life.

Communication can take other forms asides from talking. Most people enjoy receiving a thoughtful letter or email and something as personal as this can make a big difference; so why not make that special someone’s day. Listening is just as important as talking, therefore, if one of you has something you need to say - no matter how trivial it may seem - then the other really needs to take the time and listen properly.

In a similar vein, spending time apart is equally as important as spending quality time together. Allowing time apart and a little bit of space from each other helps to get the best out of your relationship - and as always, it gives you something different and interesting to talk about at the end of the day.

Remembering to show gratitude to your partner is another simple relationship improving tactic. It is second nature to thank strangers or work colleagues but it’s easy to forget to do the same for your partner. A small gesture of thanks goes a long way and often it is the simple things in relationships that keep everything in check.

An intimate relationship is essentially a partnership so make sure you always work as a team. Therefore, don’t blame each other for things that may have gone wrong. By all means recognise your mistakes or downfalls, but use this realisation as a positive and work together to move on and improve the future.

Regardless if you have been in a relationship for years or if you’ve only just started dating, remember this advice. If you put as much energy and determination into making your existing relationship work as you would put into a new relationship, then you could be onto a good thing.

Ladies, Are you looking for romance or sex?

Which is more important? Which do you desire more?

Or is it both?

What’s holding you back from getting what you want? Are you claiming your too tired to put any effort into getting what you want?

Are you having trouble communicating what you want? Is your partner just plan hopeless? Does he know how to give you what you want?

Do you desire to have him romance you regulary? When is the last time you felt special, needed, wanted and desired by your partner?

It’s time to get what you want and how you want it? The best part is you don’t even have to ask for it. He will just do it!

Do you remember when he would take you out, bring you flowers, cards, gifts etc! He would open the door, help you with your coat, not burp or fart in front of you! Oh the good ole days! Ladies I can bring those days back. I can get him to do all those things and more and he will love it too.

I can get him to give you the foreplay that you need want and desire. I can get him to surprise, shock and treat you like the goddess that you are!

Out goes your worn out tired old husband/partner, in comes the new and improved most romantic man on the planet! Ha you laugh! No I have proof! It can and will happen, “I’ve done it to the most unresponsive, laziest couch potato men in the world.”

Of course ladies he will need some attention to it’s only fair. I believe if the men get what they want and you get what you want it’s a WIN-WIN.

Men Want Sex Woman Need Romance.

Let Me Give You The Secret. So You Both Get What You Want!

You need to nurture your relationship on a regular basis. It’s essential for the relationship to not only survive but thrive. If you care about your partner and your relationship you must take the necessary actions to make that happen.

Have you ever considered your partner looking elsewhere to get their intimate desires met?

Unfortunetly, many many people do just that. They can’t communicate what the NEED and DESIRE from their partner. Do you want to take that chance?

How did that feel when you thought of that?

Could you imagine it?

What would be an easier experience, going through the heartache of that or giving an hour or so per week to fulfilling each others needs? Keep the one you have. It’s easier than you think. Also way more fun than you can imagine. Think for a moment can you say your partner is 100% satisified with the love, sex and romance you provide?

Are you?

Please if you know of others that feel like this pass it along. Go to my comment area or blog and rave about it.

Thank you

Gina Grey-Romance Director

Is it true that an open relationship will bring a couple closer together? In an open relationship a couple makes an agreement to allow each other to be sexual with other people. Many people are starting to realize that the idea that having sex with another person doesn’t have to be a relationship ending tragedy. the idea of expecting ones partner to never have sex with anyone else ever again is an out dated concept.

In an this kind of arrangement both couples are still able to live out fantasies with other people and the fear of cheating no longer exists. No more worrying about whether the other person is being faithful, it’s no longer an issue.

Despite the advantages to an open relationship there are often problems that arise such as jealousy and insecurity. Maintaining this level of freedom will require an exceptional couple. Since jealousy and insecurity are likely to arise in most people does that mean that the open relationship idea is flawed? I say not. I say the problem is that too many people have a problem with jealousy and insecurity.

A traditional closed relationship provides the illusion of a sense of security that allows people to keep their “issues” of jealousy and insecurity inside. But when you take away that sense of security and allow people to make their own free choices these “issues” are forced to come out to the surface where they will have to be dealt with if the relationship is to be maintained. On the surface this may sound like a bad thing but it actually gives people the opportunity to grow and overcome their own weaknesses and mature.

With most people, facing their own weakness is too much so they give in to their weaknesses. It is then that they blame and end the open relationship. If individuals can become evolved enough to maintain an open relationship and take care of these “issues” they become more suitable and attractive as mates. At this point a couple is able to break down their barriers and become truly close and intimate. It’s at this point that a couple in an open relationship will become so close that they will likely become more monogamous than most people in supposedly closed relationships.

Beneficial open relationships are not for everyone. They require a special kind of person. Do you think you might be one of them?

Read more about and discuss open relationships

I’ve sent an email to people in my romance compatibility mailing list, asking about their romance compatibility issues and questions in mind. I have had a lot of suggestions to that email, so it seems great idea to reply to the 3 of the most common questions in this article. Here you go.

1) How to discover whether my spouse really likes me?

Ok. I’ll try to be very tactful here. What do you think - if you indeed likes a guy or a girl how would you demonstrate that? How would you make it obvious for your spouse to notice that you really feel all warm and loving about him or her?

Mainly - you make your best to show your liking toward that person, don’t you? You show attention in what that person tells you, maybe even look up at the person for nice things he or she does and certainly friendliness in whatever happens to that person. Your eyes sparkle when looking at the other person. You seem very eager be just two of you with the guy or girl.

Does it come to you that kind of fondness from your sweetheart? Is there some kind of interest in you? Show sympathy? Check it out.

2) How to build up the feelings in our relationship?

True fondness basically depends on really agreeing and I would say admire what you see in the other person and the things he or she says to you. So, you can do your best to look good for your partner and ALSO make your best to be more fascinating for your partner. Make notes what your partner likes in the way you look and improve just that. And, to the opposite, you better not do the things that your partner prefers not to see in you.

I am not advising about becoming obsessed on being exactly what other people think you should be, because there lays depression and hard time getting other people to like you. No, I’m talking about spending your guys’ time together as smoothly and enjoyable to both of you as possible.

And I certainly advise you give compliments to things you find great about your partner. And, on the contrary, unobtrusively advise some small betterment, but very gently and not demanding. For instance: “You know, that tie would look so lovely on you, why wouldn’t you put it on?”

I talk more in my free romance compatibility report to understand more about being interesting to your partner.

3) The toughest thing about keeping a romance alive is not to get angry on your spouse.

I certainly agree with that. According to the experience I gained, people can react to things, which kind of look to him like some bad things that occurred to him in the past. And those reactions can happen without him or her really being in control of it.

One good thing about it - the more rested we are and the better our mood is, the less is the chance that such reactions can happen to us. So my advice is - rest more and do your best to keep your mood in good shape. I’ll give some good advice on this in my forthcoming articles.

Are you in a relationship where there is no romance? If so, this is no time to think about leaving; if you love the person. When there is no romance in your relationship, you must ask yourself what went wrong. For all genuine relationships to kick off there is romance involved and, it is until later in the relationship that the romance is lost. Many people who are serious do not get up and leave. There are very many people who loose the romance and, you are not the only one. Relationships and more so marriage is a long journey that will inform you that romance is hard work. It is something that you need to revitalize and do often. There are several things that you can do to bring back the love that was once felt. The first thing is to find out whether there is a problem. This is because strife and romance cannot exist together. You need to find out what you did or what your partner did to bring you to that dry status. There are very many causes of disagreements and, funny enough, one partner might not be aware of the problem.

Burying your head in the sand will not do you any good. You need to identify your problem so that you can deal with it. You will have to sit down with your partner and, in a calm manner, try to solve your problems. If there is absolutely no romance in your relationship, take all the time you need. While talking, you need to have an open mind and be ready to forgive. Having good will in a relationship is all that matters. This way, you will be willing to do anything to make things right. Honesty will be the best policy and, there is nothing more essential than this. You will get to examine your heart and give all you have in this regard. To deal with a state of no romance, it is crucial to make it a priority. This is because many people who are breaking up today, no longer have the good will to deal with problems in their marriage. Go back to the beginning of your relationship and try to recapture that love. You do not have to pretend but, you can learn to recreate it. Sometimes, people will find a love that is even greater than the one present in the beginning.

Once you have settled your problems, the issue of no romance has been halved. If you are on a similar page with your spouse, you will begin to talk. Talk is essential in romance. Not just the usual talk but, the talk that comes from the heart. When a man and a woman who love each other talk, there is a sense of magic that brings harmony to them. This is only the beginning. Give yourself to romance as well as to your spouse, nature will take its course. Make sure that you resolve your troubles once they have occurred. Pilling up problems and unresolved issues is the killer in most relationships. Nobody is perfect and losing romance is not a problem unique to you. It is the willingness to recapture love that counts. Take time to be alone with the person you love. This way, you will show the world what really matters to you. Make your spouse feel special and, you will always get back the romance.

There may be a time where you’ll come across a woman who only wants a sexual relationship. Before you rush into one with her, there are a few things you need to consider.

Here are the two things you absolutely need to know before being intimate:

1. Feelings may start to develop. This can be very disastrous to the relationship. Since the relationship is built solely on intimacy, this alone can ruin your chances for another intimate encounter. If she’s intimate with you, she may have feelings for you anyway…at least sexually. If you are intimate with a woman who just want something sexual, then DO NOT EXPECT ANYTHING MORE THAN THAT. If you try to express how you feel about her, or worse, push a relationship on her, she may decline.. It may also ruin your chances for any future intimate encounters.

2. She’s probably in a relationship. There’s probably a lack of intimacy that she’s experiencing in her relationship, so she looks elsewhere. Though she’s cheating, it may make sense to her to try to figure out a solution…especially if she has already expressed to her significant other the problem. What you need to do is decide if you really want to be with someone who’s already involved. Take into consideration that there are many possible outcomes in this situation…like her man may become more intimate with her so therefore she may cut you off.

If you feel like you can still handle a sexual relationship, then by all means, have one. But always remember what it is…just something sexual and nothing more. Take that into serious consideration.

It is important to be really systematic for turning friendship into romance. Friendship and romance are inseparable in many cases, but it is not universally true for all. Many people are enjoying their romantic life that they started with friendship a long back. On the other hand, the diametrically opposite situation may happen to your life also…you can lose your intimate friend in the mire of romance. It is the mystery of psychology that propels human beings to behave like this. But, we should always follow what our mind directs us to do. If you feel to make a romantic relationship with your friend, do not hesitate to march forward until you get him/her.

Just think of the situation – you have a friend, who understands you well, who knows you and would stand beside you in all situations; he/she is certainly the perfect match for your romantic life. The most important thing is that your have to be pragmatic enough to make her/him understand the situation, otherwise everything will be lost in the wave of time.

Romancing close friends can be risky – they may take the relationship as granted at the beginning…and you may have to face a false situation. If you are honest about your aims and objectives, do not hesitate! You know her well right from her earlier days and vice versa…and it is assumed that the relationship that exists between you can never be altered even if the sky comes down to the earth. A true friend can bring success, happiness and all the treasures in life. Honesty will pay for you and if you are honest to bring your relationship to romance, none has the power to stop that.

Most of the people assume lot of things at the beginning of any friendship. They start daydreaming and finish as a loser. It should be kept in mind that mere assuming would not pay you until you have an utmost desire to fulfill your demand. If you are too crazy to make a romantic relationship with your close friend…take time and wait for the perfect time to tell her. You would have to change certain things of you. Your lip service can play a big role to canalize your friendship to romance. Tell expressively and persuasively that you love her from your heart. If she does not want to change the equation of the relationship immediately, do not be worried; keep on persuading her and you would get the result in no time. In such cases faith and honesty work a lot.

It is necessary to bring certain changes within you; otherwise it would be too tough for you to transfer your relationship from friendship to romance. First of all, get a different look – always dress elegantly and spray perfume frequently, so that she can observe some changes in you. Be realistic and create an opportunity for her to come closure to you. Suppose, both of you are in a stroll, what you need to do is that place your palm near her waist and smoothly start rubbing until she gets aroused sexually. Wait for the perfect time - hold her hand and kiss. If she agrees with your gesture, carry on kissing in different places including lip, breast and more. Try to be direct with her and make no hesitation in asking for dating. Say, whatever you have at the earliest, because nobody knows what may happen in the days to come. Still, you need to be practical enough to judge the perfect time and place and of course, of the mental state of your beloved. Be true to your heart and do not fear from rejection. Keep a positive outlook and you can earn your desired soul by applying the tried and tested law.

Once she shows any positive sign of continuing romance, try to make it doubly sure by giving her romantic gifts and sumptuous treats at renowned restaurants. Whenever you get spare time, go to your nearby park or at the riverside. Speak in romantic tone and pick out some happy memories of the past. It will simply create magic for you. Make scope for her to vent out her emotional stories of her life. Sit closer to her and continue rubbing her body, so that she can feel good. Look for the opportunity to stimulate her physically as well as emotionally… if you can do so, you are rest assured of winning half the battle. She is not expected to tell about this incident to anyone; it is because of two separate reasons. Firstly, she would not like to create any gossip amongst her friends and secondly, she would not like to debar her from getting sexual pleasure.

So, be free from hesitation and enjoy the ultimate friendship through making love. Always remember the proverb – “Marriages are made in heaven” and if it is true, you do not need to bother about the consequences. Go and tell your friend!!! She would definitely reciprocate your feelings. It is quite possible that she is also making her mind for you…

how your relationship was in the very beginning?

You stayed up all night talking about everything - your dreams and desires and even the things that scare or embarrass you. But then, as the relationship went a long, you stopped talking about so much. Everything became so heavy and meaningful.

In the beginning, things were great. There was a level of trust and open communication that created intimacy and understanding. So, what happened to that? Where did it go and how can you get it back?

I used to try to protect my partner from those heavy, bad moods and ugly thoughts. I went to my room and hung out until I felt like socializing again.

I thought I was noble in my ability to control what came out of my mouth.

I thought I was kind because I never let on what I was thinking.

But what I was doing was ruining my relationships. There was no relationship. I was cutting myself off from others and never allowing them to know me. They never knew what I was thinking or feeling or needing.

I was an island. A very lonely island.

I really thought that if I let people know the ugly thoughts, not only would they be hurt - but they would probably become angry and disown me - betray me, talk shit behind my back. I would be the outcast.

So I beat them to the punch! Hah! I\’d banish myself to my own room (or apartment, as I got older). I\’d banish myself to silence.

You can either have a N.I.C.E. (Not Interested in Connecting Emotionally) relationship… where you hide what is true out of fear. Or you can have an alive, real relationship with intimacy, compassion and understanding.

Some people withhold from their partner and add an extra zinger — they put on a show of pain and discomfort in order to punish them. It\’s an effort to communicate just how much pain they\’re in. But none of it\’s verbalized. It\’s a show of the pain.

When you start keeping secrets and withholding,.. when you cut off the sharing of life force between you,… you\’re cutting off the intimacy in your relationship. Even if you think you\’re protecting your partner from painful or embarrassing thoughts - it\’s still destroying your relationship.

Relationships require sharing… both our dreams and desires along with our doubts and fears.

What are you feeling and what needs of yours are being met or not? …

I\’m happy because my need for support in keeping our home is being met.

I\’m disappointed because my need for partnership isn\’t being met in the way we\’re handling our finances.

I\’m sad because my need for connection isn\’t being met when you\’re out with your friends every evening.

You can find out more about this style of intimate communication, along with other advice on building healthy, intimate relationships, at our website: www MagicRelationship dot com.

Another tip: when you offer your feelings and needs, it\’s best to follow them with a request. If you offer them without a request, your partner won\’t know why you\’re giving them the information.

Do you want to be just heard?

Do you want advice?

Do you want to come up with a strategy for meeting your needs? Why the heck are you telling me this?

Often, a comment without a request will be taken as blame… which will lead to fixing, fighting or fleeing. Don\’t leave your poor partner hanging.

Paul and I recommend asking, \”Would you tell me what you heard me say?\” (Avoid saying \’could\’- it implies they aren\’t intelligent enough to repeat you. And avoid saying \”What did I say?\” because what you said and what they heard are two different things.)

And one more tip: don\’t think that little behaviors are enough to be warranted as \’sharing feelings and needs.\’ Fixing your honey a cup of coffee in the morning is very sweet, but it may not communicate your feelings of love and contentment like actually verbalizing the information. \”I love you so much\”, PLUS the cup of coffee goes much further.

Frowning and throwing around the bed covers while you make the bed may not adequately communicate your feelings and needs, either.

Instead, say: \”I\’m feeling disappointed because my need for support around the house isn\’t being met. Would you be willing to discuss a way to help that would also meet your needs?\”

There\’s no room for misinterpretation there.

Try it out this holiday season: make a pact with your beloved to share absolutely ALL your feelings and needs for one day - the good, the bad and the ugly. Then follow the information with a request.

Be prepared to spend some time processing and discussing those feelings and needs as they come up.

However, try to avoid getting into BLAMING and \’FAULT\’ behind the feelings and needs. That tends to end up in a free-for-all about evaluations and judgments - who\’s right and who\’s wrong. Try to stick with feelings, needs and requests.

Try to do this on a day when you\’ll have the time.

You won\’t want to get cut off because you have to run to pick up the kids right when you\’re getting to the heart of an issue that\’s snuck up silently between you.

You\’re going to want to stay and hold each other and talk it through… and feel the intimacy of clearing out all of those old, crusty feelings and unmet needs that have been clogging the flow of love.

And, again, you can find out more about this style of intimate communication for relationships, at our website - www.104Community.com - a along with advice on building healthy relationships.

Romance in the new world is currently undergoing a total face lift. Embracing technology via the Internet is proving extremely popular. We all have our fantasies of our ideal man/women. Through online dating

meeting Mr or Mrs right is very easy. Getting to know wether someone is right or wrong for you is unbelievable quick. Leaving you a lot more time to find the person that is your dream soul mate. Online dating really allows you to get to know someone a lot better before setting up a meeting.

Dating sites are professionally managed with great care given to make it a safe experience. Searching for the ideal partner is streamlined. You fill in your requirements and the site will search its database to find you the most suitable partners matching your criteria. All you need to do is to look through the lists, read their profiles, and start contacting them through e-mails or “chat” services provided. Once you have established a mutual friendship with someone online its then time to proceed to step 2 and meet your newest friend face to face. Studies show, the success rate is 94% Compatibility. With more than 700 dating sites throughout the World Wide Web. The statistics of love speak for themselves.

Professionally managed dating sites offer free articles that discuss different aspects on how to go about dating online. Majority of members using online dating techniques are tech savvy before they join. Those who are new to the world of online are generally helped through an online support center offered by the site of choice. And anyone that wants to get to know you will always be more then accommodating to help you through this learning curve.

Dating online

is a stress free and affordable way to meet thousands of people, which is always a bonus when looking for Mr or Mrs right. You set the pace, boundaries, decide whether you are looking for a long-term relationship or a casual one. You can access the site anytime and from anyplace. 24 hours a day and seven days a week the choice is yours.

Find your hearts truest companion by using online dating sites. I found my wife online, a woman who I would have thought was well out of my league, a woman I could have only dreamed of, that is until I went online. We were from two totally different parts of the world. The possibility of me ever meeting her in the real world was 0% I wakeup every morning, look across at her and laugh to myself, thinking ” this has got to be a dream” but it’s a dream I never wake from and I’m not the only one that has had this kind of good fortune. 84 million people are online looking for love worldwide everyday. Online dating sites are safe and there is nothing to be afraid of. Ask around and you will find that many of your friends or colleagues have been quite successful at online dating. http://www.ticket4one.com

How important is physical compatibility in relationships? Well, it depends on the couple. For some people their physicality is of utmost importance to them. When it is, they often want their partner to engage in many of their activities with them. For some couples the physical nature of their relationship is not important to either of them. And for some couples, if one rates the physical aspect high and the other one doesn’t, happy satisfied couples have found ways to satisfy that physical element outside of their relationship.

I have done research with couples who self-identify as happy and satisfied after being together at least ten years. One area I ask about is their satisfaction in the physical area. This can encompass many things. It can mean sexual compatibility. It can mean being satisfied with each other’s overall health and level of activity. It can translate into satisfaction with romance or public displays of affection or lack thereof. It could mean satisfaction with one’s partner’s physical appearance.

The one aspect of physical compatibility that seems to be most important is sexual compatibility. The vast majority of the couples I interviewed reported not having other intimate relationships outside of their committed one. They also reported a healthy sex life, well into their later years.

As author, Kevin Lehman writes in his book Sheet Music, sex in a marriage is very important and necessary to a man. He believes a woman who denies her man enthusiastic involvement in the sexual act is like a man who refuses to talk to his partner. As a general rule, women need communication and men need physical connection. That is not to say women don’t enjoy sex and men don’t like to communicate. It’s just the general trend among the genders.

I also interviewed couples who both reported sex was no longer a part of their relationship and they were both at peace with that fact. I even interviewed one couple who were married as heterosexuals. He underwent a sex change operation and is now a woman. They have remained a lesbian couple and the wife also satisfies her sexual desires with a man and her partner fully sanctions that activity.

Other aspects of the sexual area to consider are frequency, duration and creativity. All of these are things that couples should discuss and come to agreement about. If one person wants to explore all manner of sexual activity with his or her partner and the other partner is interested only in the missionary position, then that relationship may be in for some rocky roads.

Romance, foreplay and public displays of affection are also areas where it is helpful to find agreement with your partner.

Compatibility in the sexual area is critical to relationship success but the level of activity is defined by the couples themselves.

Sometimes couples highly value the external appearance of their partner. They want the partner whose look is pleasing to him or her. I interviewed a couple who are both 88 years old, married 56 years. When they were married, the husband loved the way his wife looked. Her beauty was very important to him and he referred to her as his “pin up girl.” Do you know now, 56 years later, he still refers to her as his “pin up girl”? That is a man who was able to adjust and expand his physical expectations to match the maturation of their relationship. Contrast that with a person who gets together with his or her partner based strictly on external beauty. Once that beauty begins to fade, as it inevitably will, he or she will be looking for the next partner to replace the aging one. For some couples, the outer beauty of a person is not important for either of them. And for still other couples, external beauty is of the utmost importance and they are very conscious of their weight, nutrition and may have cosmetic surgery to assist in maintaining their beauty.

A final area to look at is health and fitness. What I found in my research is that for many people who value this aspect of life, they were attracted to partners who did also. This makes the relationship smooth in this area. They often engage in common activities of fitness. They may like to hike, bike, swim, lift weights, and go to the gym together. They may even engage in their activities with other people and that is fine as long as they are maintaining their overall health and fitness. They also generally agree on their nutritional choices.

If this is an area that is not important to either couple, then there is no issue here and they are compatible in their indifference to health and fitness. What challenges and potentially strains a relationship is when one person values this and the other doesn’t. I saw this more with older couples where one partner was perhaps more overweight and in poorer health. One person becomes worried about their partner’s health and mortality.

The bottom line is that different things work for different couples. While some highly value aspects of this physical area and want their partners to value it too, some couples are able to enjoy the aspects of their physical life that are important to them while allowing their partner to do what’s important to him or her. And there are yet other couples who do not value this area at all. The couples who reported being happy and satisfied with their relationship did not have conflict in this area. Either they were compatible in this area or they simply allowed each other to fully express themselves in this area as they saw fit.