In Part 2 of this article, I discussed healing relationships and soul agreements. Please see Part 2 for this information. Let’s continue with Part 3, in which we’ll discuss Soul Connections:

Soul Connections

“We cannot live only for ourselves. A thousand fibers connect us with our fellow men; and among those fibers, as sympathetic threads, our actions run as causes, and they come back to us as effects.”

-Herman Melville

Starting to get information on soul agreements led me to continue to explore the concept of relationships on another level and from another perspective. I next began to explore various types of soul connections. Now, the soul connection that we are generally the most familiar with – and desirous of – is the soul mate connection. It is certainly considered to be the most sought-after one, and a relationship with our soul mate is one of the major things in life that many of us yearn for and actively seek. For some, it can be a lifelong pursuit. Indeed, we tend to place so much value on the soul mate connection that we are often unaware of the existence of other types of soul connections that we may have with those whom we may know fairly closely. However, other types of soul connections do exist, at least from the information I have received. So before we discuss soul mate relationships in more detail, let’s look at some other types of soul connections.

At present when I look at relationships in sessions, whether romantic or those with friends, family, work colleagues, children, or others, I will look not just at the energy dynamics or the resonating issues or lessons or soul agreements involved, but also at what the overall soul connections may be. I do this because I have learned that understanding what soul connections there may be on the soul level can give us additional insight into our relationships and their dynamics, as well as into why a relationship may have a certain feel to it or represent a certain type of challenge. I have thus far seen many different types of soul connections and combinations thereof and have been able to sense how they can color the nature of what one experiences in his/her interactions with others.

One type of soul connection I get quite commonly is that the people involved, usually in some type of close relationship, are from the same soul group or same soul family. Although I can not yet completely delineate conceptually what that means in the greater scheme of things, I intimate that the souls in a soul group or soul family may have been created as souls at the same time or in a group (although, given the nonexistence of time on the highest levels, I’m not sure that this makes complete sense) and that these souls thus share a “kinship” not unlike families here on earth. Being from the same soul group or same soul family may contribute to an underlying feeling of closeness between people or to a sense of coming from the same place, a feeling of kinship that can’t be explained by other, more superficial characteristics (family connection here, or race, or background). For some reason that I do not yet comprehend, every time I get a soul group or soul family connection, I always get a visual impression of the numerous souls in the group or family arranged in a circle next to each other. Although I feel that there is some significant meaning attached to this geometric “being in a circle” configuration, I do not yet know what that meaning may be.

I have also, thus far on only rare occasions, seen a variation on this connection of same soul group or soul family. In this variation, I have sensed that two people came from different soul groups or families, but that their souls are so similar that they are like distant unrelated cousins or two expressions of the same complex vibration. Up to this point in time, I have only seen this type of connection in souls that have some sort of inherent and greater than normal complexity, greatness, or potential for it here on earth. It’s as if their uniqueness or rareness meant that there were very few other souls who had a similarity. I’m still in the process of understanding this concept completely and will probably only begin to do so when I encounter more instances of it.

There are other, more common soul connections. Most of these are experienced and expressed in familial terms. I have sensed many soul connections that were those of siblings, whether brother and sister or sisters or brothers. I’ve seen parent to child and even uncle to niece or nephew and cousins. Other soul connections may be more non-familial. A very common non-familial one will be that of teacher or mentor and student. I have also seen soul connections that were those of colleagues, sometimes expressed in a positive and cordial manner and at other times, in a negative or antagonistic manner.

I am still not completely sure what causes or contributes to the particular type of soul connections. The connection of being from the same soul group or same soul family appears to be an inherent connection, coming from the “moment” of creation of souls, as mentioned above. Other types of soul connections, such as those of siblings or teacher/student, feel like they may have been forged through various lifetimes. Indeed, I’ve seen instances in which the soul connection between two people was varied, due to the different roles they had played with each other in different lifetimes; they were (or had been) brother and sister (in one lifetime), but also colleagues (in another lifetime), for example, and others who were (or had been) spouses to each other, as well as parent and child. (These varied soul connections, interestingly enough, will often be felt in the relationship of those involved, so that there is a mixed quality that they feel in their connection or an overlay of different attributes.) Sometimes these soul connections will have an added dimension of hierarchy, in that one of the two people (or souls) has traditionally been the “senior” one or the one with more clout or power.

Interestingly, these flavors in soul connections may change over time. For instance, two souls whose overall connection may have been parent-child, with one always having had power over the other, may find that their connection equalizes over time or even in the space of one lifetime, so that the sense of hierarchy evaporates.

These various types of soul connections will flavor what we experience in our relationships with others and often in a subtle manner. We may feel a particular closeness to a friend, for example, and then learn that our soul connection is that of sisters or brothers. This factor of soul connections helps to explain why we may be feeling some sort of connection with certain people that can’t be explained simply by the present connection or nature of the interaction, or why we may be feeling a certain quality in the relationship that has inherently been there from the very beginning; in other words, why we’ve had a specific feeling from the moment we met someone who has later become a friend that she has always felt like a sister, for example, or even a rival. (It can be very perplexing at times to have a conflicting mixture of qualities in these connections. For example, I’ve known clients who were stymied in trying to understand why a person who was ostensibly a friend somehow also subtly felt like a rival or competitor. Once the soul connections were explored and unraveled, the mixed quality of the relationship made more sense.)

In contrast to connections that may remain somewhat consistent, I will also see, as I mentioned, combinations of these types of connections. For instance, two people may be from the same soul group or same soul family and also be brother and sister or cousins or teacher and student.

The types of soul connections I’ve mentioned tend to be between those we know and interact with over and over again in different lifetimes. This continual interaction over different lifetimes tends to forge a sense of connection that is generally stronger than that which would be felt from interaction in perhaps just one lifetime. This soul “familiarity” may also enable us to feel somewhat safer working out some of our stuff in the framework of a learning relationship that is based on these close connections.

Soul agreements may be made both with people with whom we have soul connections, as well as with others to whom we feel no deep connection. And we may have both pleasant and unpleasant soul agreements from one lifetime to the next with those with whom we have soul connections. The variety and combinations appear to be limitless. Certainly if a person we’re interacting with closely comes from our same soul group and is also someone with whom we’ve had both pleasant and unpleasant soul agreements, we may therefore experience mixed feelings about that person, while at the same time feeling a strong connection with him/her. And, similarly, having a same soul family connection with someone with whom we’ve had problematic or antagonistic soul agreements may help to take the sting out of the overall connection or absolve the more problematic flavor.

Understanding what some of the soul connections and/or soul agreements may be operating in the background, so to speak, between people in relationships can enable us to begin to understand why certain mixed feelings may exist in different relationships and how we can best handle the relationship or interact in it. Interestingly, I have seen several cases in which two people had a general soul agreement to always come together in different types of relationships in order to stimulate each other’s growth, without any residual blame or “hard feelings.” (It’s almost as if there were an agreement to have a built-in “eraser” to eradicate any of the residual mutual bitterness that any of their difficult relationships might engender.) The potential is endless for the variety and types of combinations of connections and agreements we may have with other souls, including what the residual effects may be.

We will usually experience a deeper feeling of connection to someone with whom we have a strong soul connection and, concomitantly, less so to someone with whom we may have a one-time soul agreement. This may explain why we feel an instant connection to or bond with someone we meet or an instantaneous sense of familiarity — that feeling that somehow we know this person we’re meeting ostensibly for the first time. Interestingly, it will often happen that we will meet someone for the first time and feel a very strong soul connection — and then, over time, as we continue to get to know and interact with this person in real time, experience the feeling of the soul connection subside, while the present connection takes precedence.

The soul connections that can encompass diverse types of connections can really complicate some of our relationships. For example, I’ve read clients whose soul connection to one of their children was that of student. In other words, the child was their teacher (over and above the usual way in which one’s children can teach one lessons). This adds another element to the usual relationship of parent-child, with the parent trying to be the wiser and nurturing one!

On the other hand, a combination of soul connections can also add a richness and texture to some relationships that might not otherwise have been there.

Such soul connections generally underlie our relationships with those with whom we interact closely, for example family, friends, co-workers — not to mention romantic relationships. I’ve seen clients who’ve had wonderful relationships with their bosses or supervisors — only for me to find a positive soul connection with the boss as benevolent mentor in previous lifetimes. Conversely, I’ve also seen some difficult work relationships, only to discover an overriding soul connection of antagonism or unpleasant rivalry. I’ve even seen instances of two people whose connection was that of always and consistently being rivals or competing with each other. This is apparently the means that they have chosen on another level to consistently stimulate each other’s growth, which, again, may tend to remove any bitterness.

Soul connections like these can also be confusing in romantic relationships. We will sometimes meet someone with whom we feel a strong soul connection and interpret that to mean that, because there’s a strong soul connection, we’re supposed to be together as romantic partners, whereas the actual soul connection may just be that of being from the same soul group or same soul family. I’ve seen clients who were strongly motivated to be in a particular relationship because they had felt a strong soul connection from the outset with the other person and for this reason thought they were supposed to be together. All the more reason why it’s helpful to know what type of soul connection it may be.

On the other hand, it can also happen that we may sense an initial aversion to someone we meet, just because of an unpleasant soul connection — and this sense of aversion may shift over time as we interact with and get to know the person in the here and now for their present persona and essence. I’ve seen one case in which a client had a strong initial dislike for someone with whom he later became romantically involved. As his initial dislike mutated into a romantic interest, he found himself having dreams of the other person, in which he felt that he was exploring his past life connections with her. In every case, he dreamed of her abusing him in various ways. Interestingly, the present relationship between the two of them was somewhat dysfunctional, but was also a strong learning relationship as well. He ended up learning strong lessons from this relationship that stimulated his personal growth. In this particular case, his initial feeling of aversion was indicative of a difficult soul connection and a foreshadowing of painful interactions. However, he was able to mine great jewels from the experience, even though the other person was not his soul mate.

How to bring back the colourful passion in order to get your ex love partner back for a making up relationship?

 

 

 

 

One of the common issues that couples deal with is the loss of passion and spark. It’s easy to fall into a routine and become comfortable. Some people get so comfortable they are blinded by how emotionally unhealthy a relationship may be. If your ex has backed out of this relationship and you are certain there is no one in the waiting. This is a massive sign that they have been emotionally unhappy for a very long time.

 

 

It is not easy to admit sometimes love isn’t always enough. We can all fall in love with someone, but whether they are right for us is another matter all together. If your ex has emotionally checked out then it may be hard to bring them back. Not unless you change dramatically. The trick however is that you must not change for someone else. You need to do it for yourself. The sad part is change isn’t instantaneous and often it can take years to really change. Some people never do because they are so stuck in a rut.

 

 

You need to address whether your partner still feels for you anymore. If they have completely moved on emotionally, you may need to consider moving on as well. However if they still hold some feelings towards you, you may still have a chance. Communicate with them if you can to discover what is really missing for them. You need to be committed in helping the relationship grow and change. Just think of a relationship like a child; when it is young they grow a lot and very quickly but once they get older, their growth slows down a lot. This is not what you want. You need to grow together, encourage each other and share your journey together.

 

 

How often do you do activities you both enjoy together? Do you invite them into doing things that you enjoy? For example if you’re passionate about biking, do you ask your partner to bike with you? Sometimes it’s good to get them involved no matter if you think it might bore them. They may simply appreciate the offer.

Add a dash of spontaneity into your life and try to mix up your weekly activities. Try something new every week if you can. Not only does it get you out of the house, it will distract your mind and you get to meet new people as well. Learn and discover a whole lot during this period. Even if your ex is not around, you will feel a whole lot better about yourself.

 

 

Remember little bits of sweet gestures throughout the day are much better than one major one every now and then. The way to keep the passion going is to never stop wooing your partner. Try to be flirty and playful and do things without them expecting. The secret to keeping the passion going is to consider each day with your partner as if it’s your last.

 

 

Before we delve deep into this topic there are some of us who are passionate and some who are not passionate or detest passion. Intimacy is the need of the hour for most of us not priority. So how many of us want a passionate relation ship or real intimacy? It is claustrophobic to many. So we got to first self analyse as to how romantic are we? passion is romantic obsession with the partner and intimacy is privacy personified. So unless it dips in our lives we need replenish it and both passion and intimacy should not be in overdose too.

 

 

Why passion and intimacy dips? Often we compare our passionate and intimate love life to our courtship days when both the partners are their smiling best

try to impress each other constantly compelled to be desirable constantly obsessed to be non repelling wear a mask covering the inner desires curious to explore each other physically and emotionally anxious to confirm whether we will ultimately attain each other so much so that after marriage all these takes a back seat and we take each other for granted. Now that we know that we are for ourselves and only ourselves there is no competition .passion dips because there is no yearning or wooing each other.

 

 

prechild birth vs. post partum prior to baby birth couples adore each other and spend time with each other because they have ample time for themselves. they caress kiss flirt play and are fun-loving carefree and have all the time in the world. we compare this post partum when we have duties responsibilities a baby to look after and tend to .passion dips intimacy is next to impossible work hours extended after courtship and marriage we suddenly have a desire to become home makers and home builders that the girl is busy taking-care of the family needs and the guy works to save penny to build his fortune and score success in his material world that he compromises on his passion and intimacy because his priority changes these are the obvious reasons for dip in passion and intimacy

 

 

how to boost intimacy and passion in our lives? cultivate primitive behaviour and natural instincts. Forget that we are sophisticated and civilised and watching a television and working in front of a computer. - We got to remember that we have animal instincts and cultivate them coupled with primitive behaviour because ultimately that is what which propagates the species and protects us and procures food. Let us remember to be animals of nature. Day life-night life

Day-life is the material life. night life is not the wild partying but what we got to give each other in a relationship. Wholly. Prepare thyself with a fresh bath and perfume and charming look with appealing attire.

 

 

Tips to boost your passion and intimacy scores. They are to have a healthy appetite, coochy coo, cuddle, kiss, tease, utilise all the special senses-

listen to music, have colour play in dresses, add vibrant colour background ,smell fresh and nice ,tasty sweet meats chocolate, champagne, cherries and strawberries , honey etc., tactile cuddle touch tease etc., pep up with humour-extra score, healthy jokes, naughty jokes, anecdotes, memoirs, pictures, photos,

travel memoirs etc. be less inhibited , awaken the naughty, haughty, sexy, prankster in you the wilder side, wear costumes and attires and make love , read the Kama sutra together , try tantric sex yoga , discuss aphrodisiac , sensual massage , perfume bath , discover erroneous zones , search for moles and characteristics , physiognomy and results , wear each others dress , whisper fantasies , have idols and peers of passion , nibble , love bites

 

 

In conclusion, you can always appreciate and give marks for being romantic and passionate, have a physical mood clock -indicate your mood, fiercely guard your privacy, watch romantic movies together in an intimate setting, select lingerie and under garments to suit your taste, flirt with each other, date each other and court afresh like new lovers after a small quarrel.

 

Indeed, life is short. Don’t let another day go by without taking a chance on happiness. You will never know until you try, so remember to make a move today. It can change or affect the rest of your life, therefore, at the very least, you can try to come out something for your ex love partner during your weekend plans. With a little practice, perseverance and patience, I believe that your relationship could be enhanced with the tips that I have shared earlier. If you have faced any problems with your loved ones, do not hesitate to visit this piece of article again. I really have a strong belief that if you can understand what I have explained and applied what you have learnt from this piece of article, your problems can be eventually solved and your making up relationship can become more stable and stronger. I wish all the best for your making up relationship with your partner. Do always remember to spread word of mouth to your fellow friends for supporting the decision of having making up than breaking up.

 

 

 

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I’ve always found it rather fascinating how different God made women from men. And to be perfectly honest with you, I love the differences! I would say 99% of all women who I ask would never want to be a man. And guess what? 99% of all men that I ask would never want to be a woman!

We love each other, we admire each other, and we scare each other half to death. And for this reason I have decided to give you a little game to play with each other; just for fun. I have prepared a list of four intimate questions to ask your partner. I want you to take turns asking each other and then thoroughly enjoy watching, and experiencing each other’s responses.

So let’s get started and promise me you will do this with a sense of appreciation for how sweet and beautiful your partner’s answers are, and how sweet and precious your partner is.

Honey, when you look into my eyes, do you still appreciate me?

Sweetheart, when you hold me when we make love, do you feel like you want to hold me forever?

Baby, how can I show you how much I really love you?

Sugar, can you believe how much our love and relationship has grown?

So ladies and men, enjoy the intimacy that you signed up for when you decided to become man and wife. Never forget how fortunate you are to have the most amazing lover as your life partner! You, my friends have it all.

 

Roughly ten or twenty years ago, if we hadn’t started a family and were not married by our late twenties or early thirties it was considered out of the ordinary. Parents would start to wonder whether their children had missed the boat and had all but lost the opportunity to settle down and have a family.

 

 

Twenty years ago, the most common age to marry was  22. The average age nowadays is 29.  Factors such as a rising cost of living, more social options and a  general acceptance from society to remain available and single for longer has created the option for today’s singles to stay single. In recent times 30 something’s are adopting the same trends as 20 something’s.

 

 

Much of the 30 + age group is remaining at home with their folks. 10 years ago this would have stirred gossip among ones peers and would have been considered alittle odd. In the old days you were virtually booted out of home immediately after leaving school. Today’s singles are pursuing their uni degrees and not leaving home to sure up their financial security before moving out. Additional after school studies are seeing more and more singles in their late 20s – early 30s staying under the wing of their parents.

 

 

This recent pattern has also effected the romance and sex lives of today’s singles in that they are still dating as often however they are looking at ways to meet new people that fit in with their new and increasingly common living arrangements. Singles travel is becoming more and more popular as is the internet and online dating services. Social networking has taken this next generation by storm and many see this as their only social outlet. The internet and online dating sites offer privacy that living at home with our Mum and Dad doesn’t

 

 

Many singles are delaying committing to financial decisions and are pursuing their education which can lead to a small income throughout their study years. A small income can sometimes restrict our social potential. The internet and online dating offers cheap dating options and some online dating sites offer free dating for their members. The chance for internet users to expand their social options online with little or even no expense sees many aged in their late 20s or early 30s with small incomes taking up this option.

 

A high number of 30 year olds believe that life starts in their 30s. We have published some interesting comments by some 30 + year olds which can give some of us food for thought.

 

“I hit the big 3 0 last week. If you’ve just made it to the big 3 0 recently then I’m sure you can relate. I’ve heard recently and often that 30 is the new 20, but I’m sure I didn’t worry when I turned 20, so why should turning 30 change the way I think? It is my opinion that age is all in your head. Actually, its just an arbitrary time. We are actually measuring the number of times we rotate around the sun… and that’s the bottom line.  I am mostly happy of what I’ve done with my 30 years here on earth. I always try to lead a satisfying life, I try and stay in good health and I adore my partner and daughter… what else matters? See you again in 2009! (when I’ll turn 30 once again) “

 

There wont be too many who don’t agree that life in today’s day and age is harder than say 30 – 40 years ago. There are far more daily pressures. There is much to be said about the simple life and being content with the free things our earth offers.

Free online dating and internet dating for singles

 

 

The internet has many uses, so much that it has become a part of our lives. We use the internet for work, for leisure and even for errands like banking. The effect of the internet on us is so immense that we also meet friends and partners through the web.

This phenomenon gave birth to the creation of a free dating service. There are so many people who don’t have much time to go out and meet people that they turn to the net to interact with prospective partners and friends. Because it’s so easy to use a free dating service, more and more people are signing up to find their matches.

A free dating service has a comprehensive directory of individuals looking for partners or friends. There are services that will find members their respective matches according to the information listed on the profiles. They will take note of the hobbies and interests, as well as the personal preferences of the members.

Dating services have sprouted all around like mushrooms, and you can choose which service you like. There are dating services that cater to a specific group of people. There are dating services that serve disabled people, and there are dating services that cater to the Black, Asian and Hispanic market. This is helpful for people who want to find potential partners or friends within their race or capabilities. It will help lessen discrimination among members.

Here are some of the most popular ones, most of them free.

1. America’s Internet Dating

This service has more than 3.5 million users, and offers members many options to choose from. Standard services include Instant Messenger and profile matching.

2. U-Singles

With millions of registered users, you can scout for potential partners and friends according to their looks, interests, religion, hobbies, age and income.

3. Date

Date was launched on a Valentine’s Day. It has more than 2 million users around the world. It’s a safe and convenient channel to meet other single people.

4. ThirtyPlusSingles

This service was made for mature, professional individuals. People who are not teenagers or not in their twenties would like to meet individuals who are more into their emotional and mental range, and this site is perfect for them.

5. AmericanSingles

With a mission to bring people together, AmericanSingles is one of the largest and most popular dating communities. The service is proud of its high-quality group of single people.

Here are some of the dating categories:

-Christian Dating

-Married Dating

-Muslim Dating

-Sex Dating

-Senior & Mature Dating

-Webcam Chat Dating

-Swinger Dating

-Gay and Lesbian Dating

-Interracial Dating

-Military Dating

You have to be careful when you join a less popular free dating site. Some of them play host to individuals who may be out to scam or hurt you. Make sure to check the reputation and authenticity of the site that you want to join. Ask family and friends what dating sites they recommend. Make sure that you know the differences between paid and free dating sites.

Chatting lines have become extremely popular today as they are considered one of the best ways to meet partners through a phone. Irrespective of what is the location of the individual, one can access to thousands of men and women’s profiles that are available for dating and chatting. They can talk over topics that interest both of the chatting partners like your admiration and dreams, achievements, strengths and weaknesses, prized possessions, likes and dislikes and kind of a relationship that they are on a look out for.

When an individual goes out to a bar or a disco for finding a date, it is a possibility that the person you like there is not interested to make a relationship with you or with anyone. But through a chat line, you will find only the people who are really interested to find a date and to get involved in a mutual relationship.

In fact, thousands of men and women are being registered on singles chat every day that want to meet other singles out there. Therefore, chat lines prove to be an extremely helpful way for those who are looking for finding their dating partners. There are exclusive chat line numbers that are entirely devoted to various categories of interests.

If you really like the individual that you have been chatting with and all seems to go well, you can also consider to make him or her your real partner if both of you wish to. In this way, chat lines can also prove to be a great way to find your love partners over the phone, and it is a reality that many married couples meet each other over the chat lines only.

In real information, a large number of people register themselves on chat lines every day thus exposing themselves to thousands of other men and women that are looking for partners. But as a matter of precaution, it is significant to know that lot of lying takes place in phone chatting, the main reason for this being that people cannot see each other and they have never met one another face to face.

The second thing to know and understand is that people’s profiles out there are not checked and thus can be untrustworthy. Consequently, you should be ready for some surprises even before making contact with the person for the first time, but remember that chatting over the phone is one of the greatest ways of spending some good time with other people.

When you make use of the service securely and properly, you can really find a full-fledged romantic partner through phone chatting. In addition to that, if you are not interested in finding a life time partner and just want to spend some fun time with others, there are profiles like this also over there.

In earlier times, singles chat was considered scary and unprotected and was really frowned upon but with changing times there has been added protection to the profiles through which you can stay completely anonymous while surfing through the choices of singles.

The users are also able to block the calls of a person that they are not interested in or the one who is making some threatening calls over the chat line, this kind of facility is not even available in real life.

Is life more manageable because of your partner? Do you ever feel upbeat and rejuvenated after spending time with your spouse? Does a reassuring word from your loved one bring you comfort and peace?

Intimate relationships have the power to make you feel happier, energized and more alive. These experiences stem in part from the emotional connection and closeness you feel with your partner. Because counseling works in a similar fashion, it’s helpful to look at it in this context.

Your relationship might not be so different from therapy:

There are many different forms of psychotherapy, and each therapist has his/her own unique style. This means that if you seek counseling and work with ten different therapists, you will have ten very distinct therapy experiences. Would one type of therapy be more effective than another? Not necessarily, because there is one feature all therapies—and all relationships—share.

Out of all the therapeutic approaches, the most healing experience of therapy arises out of the connection that develops between you and your therapist. While therapists are skilled at nurturing this type of therapeutic connection, the conditions that form this type of bond are not unique to therapy. In fact, you might already act in ways that create this type of bond in your own relationship.

Two ingredients necessary for intimacy and emotional healing:

Therapists create a healing connection by:

1. Showing unconditional acceptance of a client.

2. Communicating an understanding of a client’s deepest struggles.

When these conditions are present, the relationship becomes therapeutic, and healing can take place. Why is this so important? Because we all need acceptance and understanding from another human being. When these vital ingredients are missing from our life, we can’t reach our full potential.

Important parallels exist between your relationship with your partner and the kind of relationship formed in therapy. Unconditional acceptance creates an atmosphere of safety—it allows you to let down your guard and truly be yourself, trusting in the security that you will not be judged or criticized. Once your guard is down and you feel secure, you’re able to become fully authentic and vulnerable with your partner.

It is vital that you and your partner create conditions that allow mutual vulnerabilities to surface. It’s the communication of these shared vulnerabilities and that experience of mutual understanding that allows a meaningful, healing connection to form.

Nurture intimacy by communicating an understanding of your partner’s core vulnerabilities.

We all bring emotional vulnerabilities into our relationships, areas of our psyche where we feel totally raw and unprotected. These core vulnerabilities usually house our deepest hopes and fears, aspirations and longings. Just a hint of criticism is enough for you to quickly cover up and guard these parts of yourself. Our deepest pain occurs in these areas, as well as our most rewarding connections with others.

There’s no denying that your marriage or relationship can lift you to heights you haven’t imagined and drop you to lows that you never dreamed of. When you make unconditional acceptance and understanding a regular part of your relationship, you sow the seeds of intimacy and your marriage enjoys a deep, fulfilling attachment.

So, do you think of romance when you hear the term “Kama Sutra?” Some people think of something a little bit more physical, but believe it or not, there are just as many different positions of romance as there are for intercourse.

For those of you who don’t know, the Kama Sutra is an ancient text of dozens of sexual positions for loving couples. The Kama Sutra is extremely popular and sought after by lovers who want to add more excitement to their love lives.

But adding real, old-fashioned love to your relationship is one of the best ways possible to improve your sexual and mental satisfaction . . . and there are endless ways to bring that love into your life. More ways, in fact, than there are sexual positions in the Kama Sutra!

So the Kama Sutra of Romance, as we will call it, is full of more “positions” to improve your love life than you’ll ever find in any sex book. And I guarantee you that the positions you’ll discover in the Kama Sutra of Romance will bring much more fulfilling and enduring changes to your love, too.

So, how do you get your hands on a copy of the Kama Sutra of Romance and add an endless number of new romantic positions to your love life? Well, believe it or not, the Kama Sutra or Romance can be yours for free . . . because it’s up to you to write it!

That’s right: just like every love is unique, so are the different romantic positions that will add new life to your relationship. From romantic dates to honeymoon ideas to pet names, there are endless possibilities . . . and sometimes, options that are perfect for one love are poison to another.

So as you write your own Kama Sutra of Romance, remember that the romantic positions that will work for your love aren’t the same as anyone else’s. Just like the original Kama Sutra, you should never feel guilty about discovering the romantic positions that work best for you and implement them in your love!

And always remember that just because a love relationship doesn’t have any physical aspects early on, that doesn’t mean that physical attraction and sexual openness can’t develop later. The best love is the kind that is nurtured slowly, and the more patient you are, the more likely it is that your relationship will become fulfilling for both partners. Have patience, be willing to try new things, and respect your lover’s opinions, and your sexual relationship will develop, as well.

When you look at the most durable, long-lasting and fulfillinf romantic relationships in the world, you’ll notice that they all have one thing in common: they were developed slowly, over a long period of time, and the people involved in them were paient. Patience is the common characteristic of every successful relationship, and it’s really the secret key to uncovering your own Kama Sutra of Romance . . . and discovering a treasure trove of variety in your romantic life.

Almost every love story has the potential to begin as if it were a fairy tale. “Once upon a time, two people fell passionately in love and their love was unlike any others before theirs.” Relationship beginnings are wonderful and they can experience a ‘rebirth’ with a wedding, honeymoon and the exciting first year of marriage. Once a couple begins to grow and their lives change with jobs, children, social activities and other commitments, the love and romance becomes more difficult to attend to. Sometimes love and romance seem to be lost altogether. This destiny is not unavoidable if you want to rekindle the passion or simply bring it to a new level by becoming a hopeless romantic.

When you want to ignite the passion in your relationship but you aren’t sure what you need to do, the best place to begin is at the beginning. Think about the things that you used to do for your partner at the beginning of your relationship. If you don’t remember or never tried to be a true romantic, don’t worry. It’s not difficult and once you begin you will find that you will get your own new ideas after a while.

Most new relationships or new beginnings rely on the ‘little’ things to show love and affection. Be sure to remember special ‘couple’ days like Valentine’s Day, Anniversaries and even the date you met if possible. Be sure to send a meaningful gift or just a dozen roses and a box of chocolates to celebrate your feelings for your partner. Women can do exactly the same thing for men here. Not many men can resist candy!

You may not consider yourself to be a writer, but writing your partner a long love letter with your thoughts about how you feel for the other person is one of the most touching ways to spark romance. If you aren’t comfortable writing a letter, consider making lists about what you love the most about your partner. Lists can be about the things they do that makes you laugh, what they do for you that you appreciate, how they make you feel inside, how beautiful or handsome they are and other very personal but attentive details.

Call your partner and talk softly and loving. If he or she isn’t able to answer the phone, leave loving messages on their voice mail or answering machine. Talk dirty when you know that he or she can’t return the same conversation on the other end.

Sometimes couples feel more comfortable trying to bring romance into their relationship by bestowing gifts on their partner. While classics like flowers, candy and perfume or cologne are almost always successful gifts, try ‘giving’ something different. Make plans to go see every romantic movie that comes to the theater during the year. Bring home a bottle of champagne to celebrate even the tiniest accomplishment he or she has had. Randomly send romantic and/or humorous greeting cards to his or her workplace or hide them under the bed pillows at home.

These suggestions are simply ideas to get you started in your effort to bring romance and love to a new level in your marriage. You may have your own ideas and those are most likely better than anything offered here. Once you open the door to romance in your marriage and begin to build a foundation for future romance, you are ready to move to even more creative levels of romance.

Romance is important for your marriage. Lack of romance can drive you nuts. There are people who might take exception to this and say that romance isn’t the important if you really love each other. Romance is more than just affection and intercourse, and when there is no romance, so did the touching, kissing, hugging and other forms of affection. People dry up without affection, they dry up like prunes.

Here is the list of things you can do to re-kindle your romance and put the spark back in your marriage.

• Leave love notes: Leave love notes around the house for other person to find. You could do that with lipstick on the bathroom mirror, sticky notes all over the house, spelled out in rose petals on the bed, with magnetic poetry magnets on the refrigerator, leave a love message on the answering machine, create a ‘message in a bottle’, bake a cake and leave a message in the frosting, on the back of the cereal box, put it on other person’s shoes, on the steamy shower door, in their wallet.

• Separate work with romance: Work covers major part of our day, but you should keep the work life separate from your romance life. No more boring details about your project from work.

• Learn to accept: There will always be some disagreement between you and your partner. There will be time when you disagree with what your partner says or does in public. Instead of belittling your partner in public learn to accept their views in public. If you genuinely don’t like anything then discuss it in private.

• Dance together: Dancing as a couple can do three things. It will bring the couple closer, it can be something which both the parties can enjoy and at the same time benefit your health. Dancing also helps improve balance and flexibility, keep bones strong and can chemically lift your mood.

• Cut your power: Fake a power outage. Unplug the phone, computer, TV, fax machines, turn off the lights, and even turn off the cell phone. With nothing else to distract, you have no choice but break out the candles and cling to each other as you tell scary ghost stories or just plain cling to each other.

• Date together: Being a stay at home parent and devoting your life to your children doesn’t mean your marriage should take a back seat. Scheduling regular date nights will recharge your marriage. Set a regular date night and stick to it. Think beyond dinner in a restaurant and try to have some fun. Arrange for a babysitter so that your night should be stress free and not worried about your children.

• Show Gratitude: Gratitude is something that is often overlooked in the day to day living of a marriage. Saying thank you shows that you recognize and appreciate the things that your spouse does for you weather it be large like going to work every day or small like packing your spouse’s lunch.

• Listen to your spouse: Do you listen to your spouse? Hopefully your answer is “yes, of course, I always listen to my spouse.” But would your spouse agree? Ask him or her and listen to the answer. If the answer to the question is “no” or “sometimes”, then you have to work on this.

• Say “I love you” to each other: It is important in any relationship to tell a person that you love them. It may not always be easy to do, but definitely can improve a relationship and make it stronger. There are tons of different ways that you can say I love you to your spouse. It just takes some creativeness and thinking on your part.

• Buy a gift: Is there anything your spouse have been eyeing but not buying? Buy that for your spouse and present it as a gift. It doesn’t have to be something expensive but a token that means something to the pair of you.

• Use laughter for bonding: Watching comedy on TV with the spouse, sharing a joke or looking at old photos is a great way to get more laughter in your life. Humor is good for your health and laughing together is a good for a better bonding.

• Surprise your spouse: Romance needs work and play. Surprising your spouse will bring a smile to your spouse’s face and a little extra strength to your relationship.

• Kiss your spouse: This is the most intimate thing you can do with your clothes on and will help to maintain and build up the romantic bond between you as a couple.

• Make love more often: The more time you spend together in the bedroom, the better it will be for your relationship.