The court room was jam-packed, while thousands gathered in the street outside to hear the fate of Love. Love arrived at exactly 9.30 a.m., that morning, and was escorted into the court by four (4) armed policemen …….accused by millions of lies and inequity in its role as a benefactor of the people.

While this scene transpired, many questioned:

“Would Love be found guilty, charged and lost in jail? Or would she be freed to function with business as usual?”

All evidence seemed to purport Love’s guilt and conviction.

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That dreaded day, accuser after accuser took the witness stand to give their testimonies against Love, while Love silently looked on; undaunted by many who blamed Love for their loss and pain, and sought for justice. “Love must be made to pay for all the pain I’ve gone through” they vowed……

Dear readers, the intention of this article is to only focus on what Loves’ accusers charge, and how Love responded to those allegations.

The following is a summary of just two (2) of those accusations, and love’s defense to them.

 The first accuser to take the witness stand was: Hurt

Hurt said, “I believed in Love’s promises, initially, and opened my heart to let love in…only to have love bring pain……How could I think good thoughts about Love, anymore, when Love has left me with a broken heart?”

“After what Love did to me, I don’t ever want to know Love again. In fact, I’m going to pass Love straight whenever I see her. And I won’t recommend Love to anyone, again.”

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Friends, in defense, Love’s reply was:

“Hurt, I am not the reason why you were brokenhearted. It was your lack of knowledge, understanding and experience about relationships, which brought you your own pain – Not me.”

“If you are honest with me, I’m sure you will agree that you didn’t listen to my counsel when I tried to warn you, or sent others to instruct you…..that you were making a mistake by forming a romantic relationship with the guy you claimed I chose for you, but you didn’t take my warnings.”

“You allowed your feelings to dictate your decisions. And now you have received a broken heart, you blame me for your position?”

“Hurt, it’s time to take responsibility for your own actions, and stop blaming Love for your poor decisions.”

“It’s your lack of knowledge and experience about relationships that caused you pain – Not me. Because you failed to practice the basic tenets of Love, you paid with a broken heart. I did not send a broken heart. My rules actually protect you from experiencing a broken heart.”

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 ‘Hurt’ left the stand to allow Love’s next accuser: Low Self Esteem, to testify.

And as Low Self Esteem took the stand, he shouted, “Love you have your favorites. You only show favor to a selected few!”

“Because I’m ugly, and have an average paying job you disliked me, and honored prestigious individuals, instead. How can you say, you’re impartial, when it’s clear you only choose the pretty/handsome and upper class?”

“Love you’re not for me. So I won’t waste my time on you - To hell with you!”

Friends, Love’s response to Low Self Esteem stormy outbursts was typical of Love’s character.

“Low Self Esteem, my favors are for all. I am not a respecter of persons. It’s your wrong beliefs about me, which have given you the life you now live. You will only have what you believe. If you believe that I am only favorable to the good-looking and upper class, then you will not give me a chance to prove myself, or allow me to freely share my gifts with you.”

“Remember, you are God’s creation, and everything He made was good. How can you then call yourself ugly, when He sees you as the apple of His eyes?”

“And how can you say that Love is only favorable to the upper class? If you had really known me, you would have known that Love cannot be bought. She always gives herself freely to others, expecting nothing in return. If someone showed up at your door, and said they know me, but is subtly concerned about how much money you possess, or are working for – They don’t know me. Because I am not about Money, my aim is the heart of individuals……..”

Friends, I have to close this article on this note, but the short and long of it is: Love was proven: ‘Not guilty’. And was free to continue her good works, everywhere…Don’t be surprise to see Love shows up at your door volunteering to help you, even if you had been one who had the world of negative things to say about Love. Such is the nature of Love.

Roger Ali Bocus

Author & Motivational Speaker

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Think back to the time when your love was new, when you had just fallen in love:

How did you know you were in love? Maybe you couldn’t eat, couldn’t sleep, couldn’t concentrate on work or chores or anything that didn’t involve your love object. Maybe you felt like a totally different person, unrecognizable even to yourself. Even those who have long-standing fears of intimacy find deep connections in the initial throes of love–under love’s umbrella, emotional intimacy magically becomes as natural as breathing.

And sure enough, your brain–on a very physical, measurable, scientific level–was revealing its own set of marked changes when your love was new. Understanding the truth behind that can help you infuse your long-term relationship with new life, even if the days of heady, brand-new love are long behind you.

What the research says about falling in love

Dr. Helen Fisher and her research team wanted to know what happens to the brain when people fall in love. In a series of clever experiments, she took people who described themselves as head-over-heels in love and did MRI scans of their brains while they looked at pictures of their loved ones. Dr. Fisher also scanned their brains when they looked at pictures of strangers (i.e., people they had no feelings towards).

Guess what happens to your brain when you’re in love?

When you are in love, the pleasure centers of your brain go into over-drive. In particular, two brain chemicals (the neurotransmitters dopamine and norepinephrine) are secreted in greater amounts. These chemicals are associated with feelings of happiness, elation, greater focus and goal-directed behavior (physical activity and certain drugs also increase these brain chemicals).

This explains why you feel so wonderful when you fall in love–you’re high! (But it’s the kind of high that’s totally legal and doesn’t come with dangerous side effects.)

As love deepens and time passes, the intensity of infatuation wanes and these brain chemicals go back to normal levels. This allows you to become less consumed with your new lover, which is important so you can begin to regain the balance in your life that existed before you fell in love. If your dopamine levels never returned to normal, you’d never get anything done at work or at home, since you’d only be able to think about your partner. Other important areas of your life would suffer.

Let’s use this research to deepen intimacy and create a more vibrant relationship:

Intense love, exercise and certain drugs aren’t the only ways you can keep the pleasure centers of your brain active (and, in case it isn’t obvious, I’m only recommending the first two). Activities that are novel and exciting also naturally increase your dopamine levels.

Here’s the important point for your relationship: when you and your partner share novel and exciting experiences, you will both surround your relationship with positive feelings (happiness, excitement, joyfulness). The positive feelings you experience will be associated with your partner (and you will be associated with his/her positive feelings). This will deepen intimacy and keep love and passion alive!

This might explain why couples feel the need to go on vacation to rekindle their relationship fires–they are creating experiences that are mutually exciting and new, and even though they don’t realize it, they’re stimulating the pleasure centers of their brains. Have you ever felt closer with your partner during and after vacations?

Putting this research to work for your relationship:

Make a commitment to do something novel together

This can be simple and cost nothing, or complicated and expensive (like visiting a far-off destination). It’s up to you.

Research findings show that couples who make novel experiences a regular part of their relationship rate their relationships more positively. Apply this important data to your own relationship–try new things together.

Here are some ideas:

~Go to a new restaurant or cook a new meal together.

~Take a class together (some ideas: adult education classes, art, yoga, dance, physical fitness, cooking, foreign language).

~Create something together (a birdhouse, a bench, a floral arrangement, a model of the Titanic).

~Decorate a room together (where you’re both involved with every aspect of the project, instead of one partner doing all the legwork while the other partner just nods approval at the color choices).

~Take up a new hobby (photography, woodworking, puzzling or puzzle-making, stamp collecting, skiing).

~Get fit together. Join a gym as a couple. Or walk or hike (taking different routes from time to time).

~Vary your leisure activities. Go to concerts and plays and museums. (And if you’ve never been to the opera, you can’t very well say you don’t like it…right?)

~Volunteer for something you’re both passionate about. Imagine how good you’ll feel if you and your partner benefit from the togetherness of doing something new while bringing aid to someone who really needs it.

…Brainstorm together about other new experiences you’d both like to try–research shows that variety is in fact the spice of life (and of love)!

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Even if you know that your marriage is over, divorce is a very difficult thing to go through. You may feel a wide range of emotions ranging from anger to sadness, irritation, elation, and more. You should explore these feelings and really allow yourself to examine them all.

When you do this you will find that you are tying up all of the lose ends and putting an end to all of your unfinished business with your ex spouse. Only when you explore all of these feelings should you begin to think about dating again.

Preparing to Date Again

When you are feeling like you might be ready to date you should prepare yourself. Depending how long you have been married the dating scene may have changed a bit and you should be prepared for the changes. Talk to your single friends, read up on dating today, and just gather as much information as you can so you know what to expect.

When you know what to expect you should consider what you are expecting or what your needs are. We all have very individual needs and you need to define what yours are. Do you want a fun simple relationship with little or no commitment? Do you want a relationship that is serious and committed? You need to define what your needs are before you start meeting people so you don’t lead anyone on or get disappointed without even knowing why you are disappointed.

Next you should confront any negative self talk that you have going on. We have a tendency to talk negatively to ourselves, always anticipating the worst, even telling ourselves that we are not worthy of a healthy relationship. You need to respond to these negative thoughts with positive thoughts. This may take work, but when you confront the negativity head on you will be a lot more positive person and embarking on a new life that involves dating will be a lot easier.

You need to work on feeling confident. Many people have really low self esteem after a divorce. Remember that your divorce and the mistakes in your marriage need not define you now. You should make sure that you feel good and look good. Get a haircut, get some new clothes, and put a smile on your face. When you do this you may easily boost your self esteem, feeling better than you have in years!

After you have done all of this you will likely feel ready to date. Take things slow, starting out with more casual dating and then move toward relationships again, if you would like. Do not go out looking for a replacement for your ex, this is not becoming and it will likely not go very well! No one wants to be a replacement, so seek out people who make you happy!

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Have you ever come to a standstill in your relationship with your spouse or significant other? I imagine that most of us have found ourselves in a place of “emptiness” - still in love but victims of familiarity and “comfort” in our relationships. This is a place in which both men and women can inexplicably find themselves — and this place can be revisited many times within the life of a relationship.

Often when my wife and I go out for dinner, we see a couple also “enjoying” having dinner. What I observe often brings me great sadness. We have seen couples go through their entire meal without talking to each other. I have even noticed some couples completely avoid eye contact with each other! This may seem like an extreme example, but I see it, regretfully, with too much regularity.

Let’s examine reasons for the mundane periods that crop up in relationships, and then follow up with some suggested actions for ensuring your mate that you still feel deeply passionate about them.

One of the main reasons we fall into these “flat line periods” in our relationships is that we allow ourselves to be consumed by the myriad of demands that “life” places on our time and attention. Society can place huge, often unrealistic, expectations on both sexes. We can fall into the trap and place these expectations on ourselves and on each other.

As a male, pressure to be a bread-winner, landscaper, little league coach and super-dad can sweep over us, taking our focus off what truly matters. As a female, these same gender-tied responsibilities can consume your attention, not to mention your physical and mental energy. At the end of the day, falling into bed may be the most enjoyable part of the day!

Recognizing that, and not suggesting that these responsibilities and realities should be ignored or short-changed, I contend that the most important things in life are our relationships with our partners. I submit that they are also hard. We must take great care to nurture and preserve our most intimate relationships – the relationships with our significant others.

So how can we keep the mad, mad world from robbing us of a truly meaningful relationship with our mate?

First, change the scenery. Just like the old saying, “All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy,” being surrounded by the same four walls day in and day out can bring about mental and emotional complacency. Take day or weekend trips to agreeable destinations. Book a couple of nights at the hotel where you spent your honeymoon. Make plans to take in all the to-do’s that a city offers – even if it’s your own city. These are suggestions that level the playing field - that both of you can enjoy equally.

If getting away is not possible, at least get out of the house. My wife and I created Date Night, which we celebrate each Friday night in recognition of our having made it through yet another work week. Starting with a meal, we make it a habit to sit on the same side of the restaurant booth! Other ideas are taking dancing lessons or visiting the planetarium – the point is to just get away from the surroundings that are so familiar. Shake things up even just a little bit but on a regular basis.

Laugh. There is evidence to support laughter actually being good for you. Laugh at yourself, and laugh WITH each other. Doing so can take away the stress and tension that daily life can bring. Besides, everyone looks their best when smiling or laughing.

Reminisce. Together, fondly recall milestone moments like how you met, first dates or your wedding day. Happy times from the past can have great and positive effects on your relationship today. The history you have together is a powerful bond.

Develop new rituals while continuing to celebrate the old ones. Activities such as decorating the Christmas tree together or working at a soup kitchen during the holidays can bring you closer together. And there’s always Date Night! And don’t forget “little” things like leaving an intimate note or a favorite candy bar in your loved one’s pocket to be found unexpectedly.

Talk. Ask your mate to share his or her deepest feelings, needs and desires with you. Make them feel safe in doing this and it will create a powerful bond between you.

Try some or all of the above and enjoy your relationship more than ever!

There are thousands of Black dating sites for free out there that provide the good means to help Black singles meet each other online. Nowadays, Black single men meeting Black single women on net is common and famous. We all need love and to be loved. Being single is not fun at all. So, many Black dating websites have been emerged to help Black singles online to find their partners. Best of all, you never pay anything for using these totally free Black dating services. It is important to take online Black dating sites one step at a time, just like Black dating sites in the real world. There is no need to jump right in and meet offline. You now have the option to lay back and take it slow. Meeting some stranger from an online Black dating site directly will not be a good idea after all. Take your time and let the two of you know each other very well. Online Black dating sites goes beyond physical attractions; characters, sense of humor, and other personality traits are considered to be more important. Getting to know your potential date candidate before actually meeting him or her offline will be the best option. 

You can understand your date candidate through conversations and messages, and eventually construct an image about how he or she really is. The most important advantage of online Black dating service is its convenience. You can do anything you want, whenever you want to. No more dressing up just to go to malls or clubs to flirt and meet dates. You can now sit back and relax in your comfortable couch, have a cup of coffee, and browse through profiles to seek one you are interested to. You also have full control of your Black dating process, which means you can adjust your own Black dating rhythm or pace. This is a very important aspect of online dating, and it can be used to your benefits. It is also known that truths are often stretched in online dating, so the only way you can be sure about who your date candidate is will be through times spent together exchanging messages or chatting. It is fine to try hard to make good impressions, but it would be best to just be truthful and let others judge you for who you are. Remember, physical attractions are not the key here. 

It is your personality that would attract people, and what would be best than just be yourself, right? Besides, you are involved in online Black dating websites to find relationships. No relationship should be built upon lies and stretched truths; it will not last for sure. Believe that you are good enough, build your self-esteem and you will find more dates than you can think of in no time at all. Last, you should take control of your Black dating websites process especially if you are female. It is only natural that men want to meet you right away, but you are the one holding the key to the entire process. Again, take it slow. Just allow yourself to get to know your online Black dating partner well enough before making any decision about meeting him, or her. Now that you know about why it is important to take online Black dating websites one step at a time, it’s time for you to get involved and start meeting potential dates. Online Black dating services is completely free, and you can start meeting new people from the comfort of your house or even office, anytime you want. So, you should join these free Black dating sites to find your dream mate today.

There are always saying that your sex life will start become boring after you have married for some time. Yes it is true that you may start feel bored when you are being together for some time. However, if you really love her, you should try to always make your sex life refresh and this will certainly help you to have better intimate relationship with your wife.

First of all, you may have heard that women are more emotional than men when sex is concerned. Men are always said to be visual creatures and most men are less emotional when intimate relationship is concerned. You have to learn to take care of her emotions. It is very important to let her know that you really love her. This is the first thing you have to do. She will lose the interest to make love with you if you do not let her know that you love her.

As a result, you should take more time to communicate with her. You have to let her know that you are care about her. You should always find some time to talk with her. Of course you can talk about anything. She is your wife at the end of the day and you can share almost everything with her. You can tell her about your work and the problem you encounter. You can also encourage her to share with you her life in the office. This is certainly a good way for communication.

Remember, communication is a two way process. You do not just talk to her. You have to listen to her. This is very important. You lady will tend to think that you do not really care about her if you do not listen to her. You have to make sure that you will listen to her and take her opinion. You do not just take her opinion when sex is considered. You should take her opinion in some household decisions. You have to always bear in mind that a good intimate relationship does not only happen in the bedroom. Everything you do to your wife will affect your intimate relationship.

One last thing is that, you should keep exploring when you are having sex with your wife. You have to be creative. You need to learn new sex positions from time to time. You may also try to use some sex toys. Sexy lingerie can also be something good to enhance your intimate relationship!

Though we hear that all we need is love, why is it so difficult to find the right woman or the right man? While it can seem as though we might never find the perfect person for us, this is far from the reality of relationships. There are many happy couples and many more happy married couples. You don’t have to lose hope in your quest for love, but you do need to look for new ways to bring love energy into your life. With Feng Shui, you will begin to not only attract the person of your dreams, but also to attract someone that wants to be with you as well.

He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not…

Before you can head to the grocery store, you make a list of the things you want or else you’ll come home with bags filled with things you don’t need. The same can be said of many people’s quests for love. Because you feel so desperate for love, you cast a net that longs to catch anyone - and you end up with more catches that you want to throw back into the water. To find lasting love, you need to be a bit more specific in your search.

Start by making a list of the things that are important to you in a partner. You should be as specific as possible in this list because this is going to increase your energy for this specific person to come into your life. Take this list and place it in the relationship area of your bedroom - which is the farthest right hand corner from the doorway. This way, you can look at this list often and increase the energy of attracting this person into your life. If you’re concerned that people will read it, make the type or the lettering small. Only you need to be able to read it.

While you’re in your bedroom, you should lie on your bed and see if you can see the doorway from this position. If not, you should move your bed so that you can. This will help you ’see’ the energy of new love come into your life. Plus, it helps keep the energy of your bedroom calm and serene, just as you want your relationships to be.

Take care to remove the sharp corners from your bedroom, as much as you can too. This might mean putting plants or other objects in the corners of your bedroom to ensure that you’re not being ‘attacked’ by the sharp areas that point at your bed as you sleep. If you can, add softer colors to your bedroom as well to help soften the energy of your love life, while also being inviting to anyone that might get a chance to be in your bedroom.

She Loves Me, She Loves Me Not….

To further use Feng Shui in your bedroom, you should make sure to add pictures of couples and pairs of things in your relationship corner. This will enhance the energy of having a partner in your life. When you leave single items in this corner, you will attract singular energy.

Also, if you like pink, you should add a bit to your relationship corner as well, if not to your whole bedroom. And no, you don’t have to choose something that’s overly feminine as there are many deeper shades of pink that look attractive in a man’s room as well as in a woman’s bedroom. Try to make sure your bedroom is in the relationship corner of your house too, if you can.

If you have any remaining evidence of past relationships in your home, it will help you to remove them. These pictures and mementos can be standing in the way of the energy of new and lasting relationships.

Feng Shui is a great way to enhance the love energy in your life, and before long, you will meet the right one for you.